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Dear Alice, How do I approach the girl I like in my school? and
what ways can I capture her heart? Girard Inkster, Michigan
Ask her if she would like to meet Prince Charming
- and be one,
Alice
Hi Alice, I'm a really shy guy who has had some really great luck
or should I say really bad luck with women. My first love died in
a car wreck one month before we were married. The next girl I dated
was a lawyer just getting started who loved her career more than
me. The next love of my life was a gymnast who died in my arms of
an addiction to speed. My last real attempt at love was my ex wife.
She was a manic depressive. We lasted only a year. I'm not even
sure if she really loved me or if she was just trying to escape
the insecurity of her own life. My question is this; How do I convince
myself to try again? A part of me wants to try again, but the pain
and fear just seem to overwhelm me now. I have noticed that over
this past year I have been walling myself off from society in general.
I would turn to family or friends, but both are either too distant
or too messed up themselves to help me. Any advice? signed, hurt
once too often - Bakersfield,CA
Dear hurt once too often,
I think I know how you feel, and I am so sorry you went through
so much. Sometimes I like to think that at some place on the planet
there are loving people and being happy, and others going through
hell having lost it all. It helps me when things go wrong, I try
hard to remember when I had my island of happiness, and I go back
there thinking it will come again. Then when things are really good,
I take the time to count my blessings, and wish for others to be
part of this amazing love I have. Jeff, now is the time to count
your blessings and take a deep breath, a new love ride will come
again, and it will be wider and bigger than the one before because
you have changed... that's what life does, like good wine, in time
we become more capable of love and we decide to have an innocent
heart. Don't give up, you shall forget these days soon... try to
replenish your soul with elementary places, childhood memories and
friends, long walks in the woods, swimming in a cold lake... let
your body heal and the soul with follow.
With much love, Alice
ps: all my friends and family are completely dysfunctional as well,
do you think we may be related?
Dear Alice,
This is a little long, so please bare with me... OK I went to Chilis
in Torrance about 4 weeks ago and I saw a waitress, her smile jus
caught me... so then the next weekend I went in asking if I could
take her out, she basically said no but gave me her number... Then
during the week I called but no pick up, so then the next weekend
I dropped a burnt copy of a hip hop cd cuz I found out she is into
hip hop and wrote a note on the back of the cd with my number, then
during the week no call, so then the next weekend after that I dropped
off a Jack Johnson cd with a note on the back but this time she
called back and we talked a lil, I was nervous as hell, I never
approached a girl I didn't know and I only had one girlfriend for
2 years. So anyhow, when we talked I asked if I could take her out
just to get to know each other, she said call back on wednesday
and so I did but no pick up.... It hurts cuz the only time she ever
picked up was when she called me and I called her back right after...
this girl Marlien....I like her a lot.....I get the butterflies
in my stomach....but the way its going you'd think she doesnt want
to meet and is jus being nice... I'm 19, she's 19 but she goes to
school in Riverside and works the weekend in Torrance which is like
an hour and 30 mintues apart. Thanks - Jesse Cho Torrance, USA
Ouch Jessie, an hour and a half ride each
way, it's not going to work. You may need to re-think this one unfortunately,
at 19 she sounds very determined to stay focused on her studies
and meeting ends with her waitress job. Don't take it as personal
rejection, this is like a bird in love with a fish (check out the
wise poem by Confucius). Why are you going after something so difficult?
Do you like a challenge in the first place, because you are headed
for rejection and it is not what we want right? True love is simple
and one doesn't need to play games. When you find it you know right
away! Sorry if you don't like my answer... Good luck anyway!
Alice
Alice - There is this girl in my English 1010 class and I always
spot her looking at me, but I don't know how to go up to her and
start a conversation. - Danny Basio Troy, USA
Danny,
I am so glad I am not a boy so I don't worry about these things!
Jeeees it is so hard! All we dgirls do is sit back and wait for
a cute boy to come along (and sometimes they never come along) then
we sort out the ones we want to talk to... Argh! I hate it when
I think of it, it is sooo easy to hurt someone's feelings with rejection,
especially when it took so much for him to make the move to talk
first... well, if you don't try you'll never know right? So take
a deep breath and keep telling yourself that your soul mate is out
there waiting for you and this one just might be her!" May the force
be with you!
Alice
Dear Alice - I've known this girl for 4 years now and shes one of
my best friends. we were pretty close at one time but we stuck to
the friendship thing. I feel like saying something to her or making
a move, but how? - christopher rodriguez lake villa, united states
Christopher, This is a great start, relationships
should be about great friendship too! Just say that to her, exactly
like you said it to me:
"We've known each other for 4 years now and you are one of my best
friends. We were pretty close at one time but now we are back into
the friendship thing.... I feel like saying something to you to
let you know how I feel, but I don't know how..."
I hope you end up together and do lots of loving things together...
Good luck! Alice
Alice, What do you think about men who shave or wax all their body
hair? (incuding pubic area, except their head of course) Sexy or
not sexy? And if not all of it what should they shave or wax? Thanx
- Lee Shelton W-S NC
I think it is a fantastic idea if you plan
on spreading whip cream and strawberries all over and you have your
lover eat off your body. Don't you hate it when you eat and find
a piece of hair across the inside of your mouth and your second
thought is "I hope it's not a pubic hair" Oh God! Smooth is sexy,
you go Lee! Alice
Hey Alice, what happens when you liked somone and then you got over
them and then you meet up like a couple weeks later and you hug
and you both don't want to let go?............Jacob Allen, Mariposa
, CA
Let me guess, you make out, get over it and
then start over with someone else, and so on and so forth... It's
called "phermones," like a drug, the brain is addicted to someone's
else scent, for two to three months. If you don't know what you
are doing, nature will keep you securily affiliated with the animal
kindom while you senselesly reproduce with one another... comforting,
isn't it? Alice
...To all the heroes out there, with or without uniform, you know
who you are, I LOVE YOU!!!! Thank you for all your amazing work...
On a personal note... and I want to introduce you to "my" personal
hero, my healer and wonderful lover.... I have something very special
to share with all of you that just happened to me... just a few
days ago my lover looked straight in my eyes and made a little chat
right to the point and there were lots and lots of tears...... ....
and guess what ladies and gentlemen, ALICE SAID YES!!! Impossible
to resist, the man does all the right things. Alice body and soul
has found a home, and I am sorry for all of you handsome men out
there, I am taken until... well, a very long time it looks like!!!
We plan on having a very large family and since we need to catch
up we plan on starting with twins (we have no choice, lots of heat
in here!) Ladies, here's the secret: DON'T hold back ANYTHING for
your man! Lots of love, Alice
Alice - I want to have sex with my sister-in-law, how do I go about
getting her into bed? Will Davis Idaho Falls
Hey, very easy one, just ask your brother
if it's OK!
Alice
Dear Alice, I am in the US Army. I was shot at while in the war
about 3 months ago...and the glass from the Hummbe shattered all
over my face. My face is a mess now..and I am ashamed to talk to
ladies like I did before this happened to me. The stitches are long
ago removed..but I do have many scars. I am still in the Army. I
would just like to know how I can get over my scars..and enjoy my
life again with females like before. Thank you very much for your
time. Sgt Jonathan Pesi. U S Army Rangers. Los Angeles. CA
Dearest Jonathan, you sounds like such a sweetheart!
I hate the war, and I hate what it did to your face. However don't
underestimate the power of love. If love was about looks this planet
would be a desert! I can guarantee you that those scars will soon
know the healing kisses of soft lips. When our features change we
are forced to look from the inside, more than ever now... and that
will bring its rewards... Now let's talk about a deeper subject
for a change, your tushees! Bring them home safe and sound, and
better hurry now! With much love, Alice
Dear Alice, I am interested in a certain woman. She is nearly twice
my age but we have amazing chemistry. Recently, I asked her out
and she said she didn't want to hurt me and that my friendship was
very valuable to her. How should that be interpreted? Is it possible
I might have asked the wrong way? Thanks. Timothy Watts Austin,
TX
A lady must never mix with unfit societial
liberties, even if her eyes are telling another story... now the
ball is in your court, or is it? She'll come around - how many men
half her age do you think she gets? And yeah, keep using the words
"we are friends" a lot, it will drive her crazy that you withdrew
your advances.
Alice
Dear Alice - well I wanted to know how to make one of my co-workers
break up with her boyfriend. You see she likes me a lot and I like
her a lot and the only thing that's holding us back is her boyfriend.
Now I'm at the point where I'm starting to build feelings for her
and I think about her a lot. So what can I do? Wait for her? - or
what? Please help me. Otto Ortiz
Panorama City, CA, USA
Mon
ami,
If I could stop politicians from rambling and if I could make the
price of my favorite lingerie go down, THEN, I could also convince
you that this girl is having fun with both of you and so, what would
be wrong with that? Hmmm, I sense you don't like that do you? ...
Who told you the best things come in halves? Do you really think
we can change someone else other than ourselves?
Alice
Alice, I am interested in a girl that I rarely
meet. She is a uni student and I graduated 5 years ago. She is the
sister of a friend. I can't get her out of my mind. I think she
is interested too but I don't know how I can approach. I dont wanna
scare her too. So what do you think is the best way for me to approach
her and trigger the attraction thingy. Bill Hoare, Montreal, Canada
Bill, little sisters compete with big sisters
to attrack men their way. She is sending out vibes your way but
they might not be about you. Do you mind? Why run after the wind?
Alice
Dear Alice, I have been dating this guy, Bahman for approx 8 months,
he tells me he loves me and wants a future together, however things
have been very rocky lately. He is trying to fix his problem and
is now pushing me away. I have been asking him for months to get
rid of his personal problem, knowing that it will end up ruining
the relationship, Now that he has decided to clean up his act, he
almost is acting like it was my fault, I begged him over and over
to stop what he was doing, I truly thought I loved this man, Oh
and by the way, his little problem, well I kind of had one too,
and I went to him , told him what I had done, he never gave me the
emotional support that I really wanted. Do you think that he is
selfish? For the past 4 months, we haven't been to dinner, we have
never gone away together for the weekend. He says that he needs
time because he is trying to take care of himself and make himself
better, and he is very stressed and can not take anymore or my problems
on his shoulders, He just doesn't have the energy. I tried leaving
him before and he begged me to stay, and that he would do anything
to keep this relationship together. I also have a trust issue w/
this guy!! Never caught him doing anything, but his actions towards
me and the sex has definately been a roller coaster. What should
I do? - Debbie Smith Redondo Beach,CA
Dear Debbie, Please don't forget number one
rule in love: be patient and be giving. Often everyone in a relationship
is thinking what's in it for me? But the truly loving partner says
"how can I help you feel stronger?" Love, be patient and have lots
of fun together. If you need to talk to someone write a diary or
talk to a girlfriend, but leave the man alone. He needs to come
to you for safety and comfort. Keep your heart open and the lips
very perfect for kissing!
Alice
Hi Alice, Ive read a lot of stuff from Deangelo. It really helps
a guy in getting phone numbers. Anyway my question is: I met this
girl, got her number too. Now I was being C&F and it worked, but
I would call her like once a week (players rule). I really thought
this would work, but it back-fired. The girl dropped me, when I
asked her why, she told me that the reason was that it looked like
that I was not interested in her, and was just playing. She said
girls like it when guys call more often like every 2-3 days. I was
just wondering if you had any insight, do you really think a guy
should call more often to show he's into her? Thanks Alice Mike
William, Oklahoma
Mike, We're all up in the rules here... Anyway, when you play by
someone else's rules you override your instinct... basically you
are someone else... but who? Close the books and follow your instinct.
I tell you, in time things gets very simple, you ask her what she
wants and she tells you. Get it?
Alice
Hi Alice,
How do you know if a girl is being a tease or if it is just that
she does not like you, but she's too polite to tell you directly?
I know people tell you that you need to call a girl and sometimes
she'll play hard to get. For example she won't say yes or come w/some
lame excuse, but how can you figure this out? Because for me if
you call a girl more than three times it feels like you are a stalker.
Thanks. Bill Williams, Washington USA
Bill, Keep your cool and let the girl come
around, that's what I say. I wanted to play games too when I was
a teen, I thought it would make the guys want me more -- now it's
either "here's my number, you better call me" or 'sorry, there already
a big sailor riding my boat..." There's no fun playing with a guy's
feeling ~ Toss her phone number!
Alice
Alice, this girl just broke up with her ex two months ago and we
have been going out ever since as friends. We sometimes hold hands
and get close. But I think I really like her now and I don't know
what to do. Please help me. Mikey Chu, NYC
Mikey
my sweet,
Honesty
is the key, especially with oneself; do you feel she is growing
closer to you like you are with her? Tease her, play with her hair,
enter her private space, and play doctors (Alice favorite!) and
tell her you care...and also let her know you never want to hear
about her ex... I for example, never had any ex, I am all in my
present boyfriend, AND, may I add, he is all IN me.. Now I have
to go back to my breathing and moaning exercises, doctors' orders,
you know...
Alice
Hi Alice, I am trying to fix something I did wrong. I met a real
nice girl and I got her number, and we were supposed to go on a
date the next day. When the next day arrived, I was tired and canceled
the date. Later on that day my friends dragged me out and we went
to a club. Unfortunately she was there with a couple of friends.
Even though she told me that she wasnt upset, I felt that she was.
She told my friend later that I thought I was a player and ignored
her. What can I do to correct this, because I really did not wanted
to hurt her feelings, it was purely coincidence. Steven Martin,
Curcacao
Steven, excuuuuuuuse me! Practice in front
of the mirror, then call her back a.s.a.p.! You
cancelled the date because you really like her and you got shy.
Sweet
and irresistible, women love this kind of stuff, especially because
you had a connection to start with right?
BTW
how big is Curcacao? Bloody Hell!
Alice
Alice, there is this girl that I have gone out with a couple of
times, and I really want to have sex with her but I dont know what
to do to get her to have sex with me. Corey
Harness Pioneer,TN
Hey Corey, Any
bridges out there? Scanky movies theaters? Ask her to take her knickers
off while you take a drive over a long bridge, and dare her to throw
them out the window. Sound like fun? You be in the driver seat,
got it? Then you can take turns taking cloths off... The key is
to get into a mental playground don't you think?
Alice
Dear Alice, I have been dating a guy for 2 months.(He was in prison
for 15yrs. recently out 6 months now.) He tells me that he just
wants us to be friends and that we have potential to be more. When
we go out he holds my hand, wants me to sit in his lap, and he continually
caresses me. Sometimes too he performs oral sex on me. When I ask
him where exactly our relationship is headed he says that I am to
relax and give it some time. I personally think that two months
is a long enough time to know if you want a committed relationship
or not. He says with me keep on asking him about our relationship
status it is causing him to withdraw. What do you feel his motive
is? Symoni
Miller Bahamas
Dr. Alice emergency room prescrition for Symoni:
3 times a day, for three months, tickle, caress and squeeze every
soft part in your own body until desired panting and Summit of Joy
is reached. Over the counter porn OK, if needed. WHEN you get this
together, THEN YOU tell guys what to do (how in most cases) and
WHEN to commit. NOT the other way around. No sexual and mental independence,
no healthy relationship. Kiss him goodbye, hopefully he won't be
abusive about it. Love to you sweet darling.
Signed: Doctor Alice
Dear Alice, I have a friend that I have known for quite a time and
Im begining to fall in love. I have Two days to tell her before
schools out. Lately Shes been flirting with me, Should I tell her?
I am tingling all over Jack, it looks like you are both realizing
what was there all along! Alice's plan: You are together in a public
place, grab her real close to you and look straight and deep in
her eyes and say real softly "Are you going to miss me over the
summer?" Women love to be taken on the spot... ... and you will
see. Do let us know here, Steamin' Alice
Alice my main problem is I really need good examples of conversation
topics from you because, I'm being myself but I end up with nothing
to talk about. - Joe
Dear Joe,
Homework
#1: practice seducing women across the room with just looks and
smiles, observing carefully the curves of her body, VERY SLOWLY,
as if actually caressing it with one hand..
Why
talk? So over rated. I can read a man by just taking one deep look
into his eyes, and I can see how deep goes the rabbit hole!
And
for a change, let the girl do the talk and the chasing, with intimate
support,
Alice
Might I just say you are just unbelievably sexy!! Now for my question.
I'm not saying I'm small but average, now everyone has heard that
it's not the size of the ship but it's the motion of the ocean.
Is this true because I know it takes a long time to get to England
in a rowboat. Thanks, Troy Mt. Airy NC, USA
OK, this is the part where I take out my ruler
and the rest of my teacher outfit (that would be nothing on but
my sexy little round spectacles!) tap-tap-tap attention boys!
I personally love it when a man is a little shy when he is naked
- is it you Troy, and 99% of the men I know? That's how we women
allow ourselves some assertiveness in bed, and we are more responsive
and attentive with one another... isn't it what it is all about?
When you go to a restaurant with your date, are you really counting
the numbers of peas in your dish or are you just thinking about
having a great time together? Men are visual, but women need to
know that they can let go. That's really very simple. Did you know
that the nervous ending in the woman's vagina is located in its
first third part? Good news isn't it? Besides there is plenty of
playground to explore, now don't get lazy and let the general do
all the job. Variety and patience is the key gentlemen! Now go to
work, and don't forget to be nice and take turns on the rowboat.
Alice is all for England!
Alice, I had this girl and I still love her. We went out for a year
and now she is going out with my big brother. What should Ido? Jamie
Brown, Perthshire Scotland
Jamie you are going to have to accept that
this relationship is history. Nothing but trouble can come from
this type of situation. Believe Alice when she tells you, it just
isn't worth barking up that tree.
Yes, you love her. Yes, you're sad. Yes, YOU"LL GET OVER IT.
Find someone with no baggage and let sleeping dogs lie.
Alice
Hi Alice,
How can I talk my wife in to anal sex, or what tips can you give
us because she is scared of the pain. - Rudy Mancilla, Montclair
Ahhhhh Rudy.
Just when I felt like my column was becoming a bit too tame. Here's
the deal with anal sex. Most men want it, most women don't. This
makes perfect sense to me on both sides.
Here's what you've got to do to give it a go, MANcilla (sounds like
penicillin for women). Buy a really good lubricant (and I mean REALLY
good) and be prepared to take it really slow. I mean an inch at
a time, if that's what it takes. Tell her this before hand so she
knows the ball is in her court, pardon the horrible pun. If she
wants you to stop, you'd better be prepared to do it! Don't make
me come over there and beat you!
Let me know how it goes.
Alice
Hey Alice I have this friend who is very close to me and lately
I've been having some feelings towards her. She is just like me
but in female form, I want to tell her how I feel but I am afraid
that it will ruin our friendship which is something I don't want
to do. What should I do? Please help me. - Will M. toronto,ON
Dear Willy~
You're gonna have to trust Alice on this one. Keep your willy where
it belongs. Friends and sex don't mix. At the very least, wait a
few months and see if your feelings pass. It's natural for friends
to be attracted to each other from time to time. After all, if you
didn't like the person you wouldn't be spending time with them anyway.
If the feelings don't go away then I suggest sitting down and discussing
it with your friend. The most important thing is to maintain what
you have. If you feel you can build on it and she shares your feelings,
then go for it. Good luck! Alice
Alice, I was wondering if pulling a chair out for a girl is being
too nice or what because I do that kind of stuff and what do you
think? - Jacob Allen, Mariposa USA
Are you kidding me Jacob? Women live for that
shit! A guy can never be too charming, but you must always be genuine.
Don't do it to get into her pants. Do it because you enjoy treating
a lady like a lady.
Bravo, you big stud!
Alice
Alice, I'm afraid to go out with this girl that I really like because
the last one I went out with she lied to me about everything. What
should I do? What way do girls like to be kissed the most? - Jacob
Allen, Mariposa USA
Hi Jacob~
I love the fact that you've written to me with this question! So
many men are too afraid to admit they've been hurt and to talk about
it. Ironically, that's exactly what you have to do to get over any
kind of pain....talk about it!!! I realize that men are built differently
than women (thank God!) in this area, but it's just something you
HAVE to do.
Now, another crucial thing you have to do is to ask yourself why
it is that you attracted someone deceitful? Yes, you heard me....YOU
attracted this woman to yourself and it's important to accept responsibility
for that. It may be because you don't feel worthy of honesty or
maybe you feel guilty about lying to someone else. The possibilities
are many and it's something only you can answer for yourself.
The next thing you need to do is align yourself with correct principles
regarding what you are looking for in a partner. What is it that's
important to you? If it's honesty, then you need to be honest. If
it's faithfulness then you need to be faithful. Be what you want
to attract. It works I promise!
I know all of this might sound like a lot of work, but once it's
out of the way you can start having amazing sex with the woman of
your dreams! You heard me....fuck her brains out baby you deserve
it!
Alice
PS How do women like to be kissed? A LOT and everywhere with as
much passion as you can possibly muster.
Hey Alice. There is this girl that I have always thought was really
attractive but she has had another boyfriend. Well they just broke
up the other day and I want to ask her out but I just cant. I dont
think she actually likes me and I get choked whenever I talk to
her. What can I do to stop choking whenever I talk to her? - Kenny
Gruble, USA
Dear Kenny~
Every time I ask this good friend of mine whether or not I should
do something that requires courage, his response is always "what
have you go to lose?" My answer alway seems to be "absolutely
nothing"! It has given me tremendous courage to realize that
9 times out of 10 I should just go for it. So, Kenny I ask you now....what
have you got to lose? Go for it!
Alice
Hi, I have a question, there is a girl I like but I dont know what
to look for when the girl is interested. I went out on a date and
she seemed to be having a good time but I think she's really shy.
Got any ideas Thanx, Logan Meston, Marysville,Wa
Dear Logan's Run~
If this shy girl went on a date with you, she MUST be interested!
You guys are so insecure. Have a little faith in yourself and just
go for it! Grab her and kiss her. Girls love the guy to be the boss.
Trust me on this one!
Alice
Hi Alice, I am recently divorced and have begun dating again. My
question for you is; how do I let my date know I am ready to make
love. I dont want to scare them off and yet I dont want to miss
a great opportunity. How do men take this step with sucess? David
King, Tulsa Okla
Dear David~
Women
assume men are ALWAYS ready to make love. Believe me, it's not something
that needs to be discussed. The only way you will scare a date off
is by not listening to her signals if SHE isn't ready. Otherwise,
let her know you're the king of the castle baby! Go for it!!
Alice
Alice, First of all I dont think that you are the hot lady on this
website. Anyways, I happen to be a very attractive 20 year old college
guy but my sense of humor is just not there. I have my moments,
but overall I cannot be funny whenever I want. Furthermore, I realize
this when I'm tryin to kick game to a girl, and I put too much pressure
on myself and it makes my ability to create humor even worse. This
is my number one enemy. What can I do to solve this problem? Help
is desperately needed ASAP. Thanks, - Greg Mader, Harrisburg, PA
Dear Greg~
The part of this letter that tells me where the problem lies is
this line "when I'm tryin to kick game to a girl." This tells me
right away that you're not being yourself, but rather trying to
manipulate the situation to get what you want. It's time to grow
up Greg. Looks only get you so far and believe me truth and honesty
will get you a lot farther with girls. At this point it's not your
inability to create humor that's your biggest enemy, it's your inability
to be yourself. Speaking of truth and honesty, of course I am the
hot lady on this website. You think someone who didn't look like
me would be this confident? Be yourself! Alice
I was just wondering if u could tell me the secrets to the body
language, ya know to help my odds with the girls. - William, Martin,
Dover, US
Dear Willie~
Darling if I knew how to create chemistry, I'd be a millionaire.
The secrets to body language....hmmmm. There are books on such things,
but truly body language just happens naturally. When you're into
someone you can examine your body language and all signs point to
go. Your legs are crossed in their direction and your whole body
is pretty much open to them as opposed to having your arms crossed
and body shifting away from them. If you're talking to a girl and
you want her to know you're into her, chances are you'll naturally
be giving off signals with your body. Relax and enjoy! - Alice
Alice,
I've met a nice woman, we have met over drinks, and gone out twice,
she says she is very attracted to me, on the last date we had, she
said she wanted to back up, and just be friends, she's concerned
over my finances, which are marginal. But when she kissed me goodbye
we kissed over and over, passionately for 15 minutes. If she hadn't
just said she wanted to back off, I would have taken her to bed.
I know she is scared, I've written her (today) but as yet I dont
know what's up. I basically ask how does she really feel, her logic
is one thing, but her kisses say another. According to her I'm her
best prospect in 2 years, but she's not comfortable cause I owe
on bills, and am rebuilding from a divorce. I understand taking
it slow, but she kisses like she's saying take me now! What do you
think? Confused. Doug King, Tulsa Okla
Dear Dougy~
Your letter frightens me. Not so much because of her concerns about
your finances or her teasing way of kissing one minute and saying
no the next. What really scares me is that you would be attracted
to this type of woman! Honestly, it turns my stomach to think of
people making decisions of the heart based on facts of the mind.
I'm trying to be understanding towards her concerns, but I'm finding
it difficult. I also don't like the way she has told you you're
her best prospect in 2 years. Like it's some sort of race to the
finish line. There are a lot of people out there in this day and
age who are taking this approach to romance, but I am not one of
them. I believe we attract what we need in our lives and what I
need is love (good sex doesn't hurt either....well sometimes it
does. Tee hee). Therefore, someone's bank account does not come
into consideration. It is most important to me to find someone who
is passionate about life and their work. Someone who has the capacity
to be passionate about me and find exciting new things to see about
me every day. I can't speak for you Dougy, but if I were you I wouldn't
give this girl the time of day.
Alice
Alice, I am a 25 yrs old guy. I am bored of being single. I would
like to have a good life by dating beautiful girls. But there's
one thing in my mind, I dont want to put money as a factor but true
feelings about me. Is it possible? Another thing is I dont know
what should I write to start off. (online dating) CCY Aaron, Malaysia
Dear Malaysia~
Of course it's possible to put true feelings about yourself when
looking to date. In fact, it's the ONLY facts you should include.
Making things up and lying about who you are to get girls is a complete
waste of time. For one thing, you'll only attract women you're not
attracted to and for another, when they see who you really are they
probably won't want you anyway. Being honest about who you are is
the only way to find someone who enjoys the same things you do and
sees eye to eye on important issues. Let it all hang out baby!!
Alice PS Why would you even bring up money? It's not who you are
and anyone who judges you by what you have or don't have is no one
I want to know!
Alice
Dear Alice,
I have a serious issue. A girl has been calling me for the past
2 weeks. She says she knows me from somewhere, but she wont say.
Lately my girlfriend and I have been in a fight because she cheated
on me and has admitted to sleeping around for quite sometime. I'm
not sure to go for the sexy phone girl or my girlfriend of 10 months.
- Josh Brown, Madison Lake, MN
Oh
my Gosh, Josh!
Don't
be fooled. My first instinct tells me that the sexy phone girl is
a set up by your cheating girlfriend. Usually, a cheater is very
suspicious of their partner because of what THEY are doing. Don't
fall into the trap.
Honestly?
My advice is to choose neither girl. Find someone new without any
negative attachments. These two sound like trouble in a mini skirt.
You'll
thank me later!
Alice
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